Building Without A Blueprint

Why Do Men Ghost Pt. 2

In this episode Princeton spills all the tea on why men sometimes opt to disappear in relationship instead of communicating effectively. He finishes his list and then shares how men can improve if they’ve ghosted before. 

Why Do Men Ghost

In this episode Princeton tackles the topic of ghosting during the dating process, and helps men understand what may truly be underneath the decision to stop contact. 

How Do Men Heal From A Breakup ft. Keishorne Scott

In this episode Princeton talks to relationship expert Keishorne Scott about the right and wrong ways for men to respond to heartbreak. They get down to the root of all and provide answers for men who want to be better men and get the relationship they want and deserve. 

We survived 2020 Ft Preston Parker

In this episode Princeton sits down with his little brother Preston parker and they take time to laugh, reflect, and process the rollercoaster that has been 2020

After This Year, We're Still Standing

Listen as Princeton talks about the last sermon of the year. Let’s learn about the miracle of stability and taking courage of still standing despite all the challenges that we are facing.

 

Episode Highlights: 

• The miracle of stability of still standing despite the challenges this year is revolutionary.
• Matthew 7:24- "Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock."
• Sometimes it is not the house that you praise God for, but the foundation that the house sits on that you praise God for.
• Princeton realized that he is still standing, not because of his right decisions, but because of what he's built on.
• Jesus did not just come to save us, but he came to make us stable.
• Being stable deserves to be celebrated.
• The fruit of people's obedience to God is stability, the true measure of God's relationship with us.
• Stability is not the absence of a conflict but a presence of a foundation.
• Some people hear God but never choose God. They are always building something but not according to the right blueprint.
• The beginning of stability is when you see the word of God as safety, not slavery.
• Anything we do, simply because we must, will not easily be sustained.
• God is essential, if you only see Jesus but don't hear him, you never stay the course.
• If God is not the foundation, the events determine whether it is a good or a bad day.
• There is freedom, where there's a foundation.
• Companies that don't have core values/identity are always at the mercy of the latest trend.
• Foundation lets you reinvent without fear.
• God says, "I love you too much to build you high without first building you deep."
• God being absent is the process of going deep before going high. 
• Foundation building looks like unseen sacrifices. 
• Often, God softens our hearts when He wants to increase our strengths.
• The enemy has been tormenting us, making us look at someone else's house, not enjoying the stability of our own. 
• Faith says “I trust the way I was built.”
• The lord is the strength of our lives. 
• If you have with God, you have stability. 

 

3 Key Points:

1. Matthew Chapter 7 explains that the miracle of standing despite the storms that we have, is a miracle that deserves celebration.
2. Jesus came not just to save us but to give stability as the fruit of our obedience with God.
3. Building a foundation are unseen sacrifices, giving 100% in temporary circumstances. 

 

Tweetable Quotes:

• “To be still standing is not like a small thing after this year, it is absolutely revolutionary.”- Priceton
• “Stability is something to show for this year."- Priceton
• "Stability does not mean every aspect of your life aligns perfectly so that your story makes sense."- Priceton
• “I almost gave up, but I didn't lose my way.”- Priceton
• “Digging deep always brings you to your knees and prayer”-Princeton

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Building Without a Blueprint Podcast 
• Princeton's Website
• Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

Did Jesus Ever Talk About Anxiety? Part 2

We’ve talked about Jesus struggling with anxiety, but was anxiety ever a topic of one of his sermons? Princeton explores part two of the famous sermon on the mount in Matthew 6 and explains how it contains life lessons on how to deal with anxiety. 

 

Episode Highlights: 

• We are laboring on the same topic about mental health & faith and understanding how to navigate both.
• It is possible to be saved, to love the Lord, to have a Holy Ghost, and yet still affected by the pains of this life.
• The enemy's strategy is to overwhelm us. If we don't have the tools in life to accomplish anxiety, then we will be overtaken by the enemy. 
• Anxiety comes in three levels as it exists in the body, the soul, and spirit.
• In Matthew chapter 6, Jesus talked about anxiety, which also allows us to read what Jesus' teachings on how we can win our journey in anxiety.
• The first seven recommendations from Jesus are:
• Stop performing for the measurement and approval of people.
• Learn the value of genuine alone time.
• Remember that your needs are already known.
• Remember the reverence of God and your relationship with God.
• Release the desire to have everything in your order and submit to divine order.
• Take one day at a time.
•  Forgiveness is the art of realizing which makes space for peace.
• The second seven recommendations from Jesus are as follows:
• Lesson 8, have boundaries, for a life with no bounds will always have anxiety.
• The real measure of health and maturity is when you learn how to say no.
• Lesson 9, practice gratitude, which will give you strength. Wake up every morning for the things that you can do, not for what you can't, then complain about it.
• Thank people for who they are, instead of calling them out for who they're not.
• Lesson 10, keep your process to yourself when necessary. Be transparent, but don't advertise every step of the process to the world.
• Inviting people on your labor is an invitation for their praises as well as their criticisms, and therefore will give you more anxiety.
• Jesus says you have anxiety because there are too many people involved in your healing that I didn't ordain to be involved.
• Lesson 11, don't chase materialism because if you pursue materials, then your peace is based on whether you have it or not.
• The danger of being in American Christianity is, sometimes we take capitalism, which is the idea of securing stuff by any means, as a sign of the presence of God.
• As people think having material things a symbol of having God, we are more anxious trying to genie God into performing something.
• Lesson 12 says, monitor what you look at because it is vital to guard what you look at.
• Frequent social media posts or advertisements makes you think you need it when you’re not, then will expose you to more anxiety. 
• Lesson 13 says, no man can serve two masters. Prioritize your pursuit and focus on prayer as it will give you strength, clarity, and energy to do anything on your list.
• Lesson 14 says, look to nature. You are anxious because you have disconnected yourself from the world.
• Jesus says, the next time you feel anxious, go outside and look at a tree.
• Verse 33 proves that Jesus preaches about anxiety.
• Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.
• Don't be anxious and everything you worry about shall be added.

 

3 Key Points:

1. Jesus talked about anxiety through Matthew chapter 6 and gave his recommendations how to deal with it.
2. The enemy will take advantage of anxiety by overwhelming people, but God has tools in life to overcome anxiety.
3. Don’t be anxious, trust the Lord and his process, then all your worries shall be added.

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• "One of the enemy's greatest strategies is the ability and his desire to overwhelm us."-Princeton Parker
• "If you do it to be seen, then being seen is all you get. "-Princeton Parker
• "Sometimes, we pray with anxiety, we pray like God doesn't see us. "-Princeton Parker
• "Do you know that the biggest weight comes from those three words, I have to"?"
• "If I manage the day well, the year is guaranteed."-Princeton Parker
• I have realized that the true measure of health and maturity, if when you say No to. "
• "There's a practice of gratitude that gives strength."-Princeton Parker
• "Imagine, what it might do to your relationships if you thank people for who they were, instead of calling them out for who they're not."-Princeton Parker
• "He says, listen, wash your face, involve those who need to be involved, don't have the anxiety to involve those who don't need to be involved."-Princeton Parker  

 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Building Without a Blueprint Podcast 
• Princeton's Website
• Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

 

Did Jesus Ever Talk About Anxiety?

We’ve talked about Jesus struggling with anxiety, but was anxiety ever a topic of one of his sermons? Princeton explores the famous sermon on the mount in Matthew 6 and explains how it contains life lessons on how to deal with anxiety. 

Episode Highlights: 

• Matthew 6 is about a discussion of how a good deed has done for the wrong reasons.
• Princeton talks about Matthew Chapter six on how Jesus preaches about anxiety. 
• Princeton gave recommendations from Jesus on how to deal with anxiety.
• Verses 1-4 lesson says, stop performing for the measurement and approval of people.
• Don't do good work trying to be impressive, because you tend to open yourself up to the anxiety. 
• When you open up for people's praise /identity, you also live by their rejection. 
• It is not the right motivation if you just want to be seen because you are not even aware that you open up to others by basing your identity on what people are saying. 
• Jesus never tried to impress even he has a lot of reasons and opportunities to do so because he is going to the will of the Father that sent Him.
• The tendency is, you might impress people today until someone comes along who's more impressive. 
• People give praise because of what they need, so the moment they lose it, they will no longer be impressed.
• Princeton is so concerned about every generation on how we are so obsessed with how we look to others. 
• There's a lack of inner peace because our concern all the time is how we look to others. 
• Verse 5-6 lesson says, learn the value of genuine time alone. 
• Anxiety is not about too many things that we're going through, but because of not having that time alone.
• The lesson from verse 7 to 8 is to remember that your needs are already known. 
• The Father knows what you need before you ask. 
• The lesson from verse 9 says, remember the reverence of God and your relationship with God.
• When praying, you see God is way bigger than your anxiety. 
• The lesson from verse 10 says, release the desire to have everything in your order. 
• Anxiety is because we choose to do it our way as we believe that our plans are more significant than God.
• The lesson from verse 11 says, take life one day at a time.
• Forgiveness is the art of releasing which makes space for peace.
• Do not hold on to anger to put more space for peace.
• The closure is an important part of forgiveness.
• Forgiveness begins in acknowledging that sin was committed.
• Our responsibility is to forgive but not to entertain the same space.
• Holding on is not going to penalize others who have sinned you, but it will just make you heavy. 
• To wrap it up, therefore take no thought as God said don't be anxious.  

 

3 Key Points:

1. To avoid exposing yourself to anxiety and find inner peace, do good things not trying to be impressive. 
2. The Father knows what we need, pray and see that God is greater than your anxiety.
3. Do not hold on to anger, forgive to put more space for peace.

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• "When you do good work don't do good work trying to be impressive." -Princeton Parker
• "If you wanted to be seen, is not the right motivation in the first place."-Princeton Parker
• "How much freer would you be, if you pick clothes out in the morning not caring about what people's gonna say?"-Princeton Parker
• "Sometimes, we like to be offended because it guarantees us an opportunity to something later on" -Princeton Parker
• "Where there should be love, there's anger." -Princeton Parker
• "If God treated you the way you treat others will you be satisfied?"-Princeton Parker

 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Building Without a Blueprint Podcast 
• Princeton's Website
• Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

The Truth Behind Jeremiah 29:11

You’ve never heard this scripture preached like this. Jeremiah 29:11 is one of the most famous inspirational scripture quotes, but Princeton talks about now there’s more to the text than we usually talk about.

 

Episode Highlights: 

• Princeton welcomes listeners as they pressed the play button to this podcast.
• Princeton realized that even people in the church quote scriptures, and we are like biblically illiterate.
• Be contextual biblical interpreters/preachers to get the scripture's richest meaning, and don't end up misinterpreting its meaning.
• Princeton talks about the contextual sense of Philippians 4:13 of how to be content in every stage of life as Paul developed the tool so that he can be okay and know who he is with God no matter what the situation is.
• We hear scripture on social media, and so we post a scripture more likely to be a motivational quote than a scripture.
• Unlike scriptures, a motivational quote doesn't need context because they are not part of a larger story.
• Princeton runs the exposé of Jerimiah 29:11 to find about how it relates to anxiety, to commit to reading verses, and see the real knowledge of the words of God.
• Anxiety sits here among us until we are willing to confront it and have that conversation.
• Jeremiah 29:11 is prominent in social media because it is so affirming that God says, “I want to give you an expected end”.
• Princeton started reading verses one through ten and about to explain the context of the scripture.
• The book of Jerimiah says to build, plant, invest, anchor yourself, but the people's objective is to leave.
• The root of our anxiety is that as a culture, we are so future- focus that we do not make peace with right now.
• God's question is, "Am I a God of now, or do you need me to transport you to where you're going?".
• In Exodus, Israel is acquainted with God of Suddenly as he spoke to Moses about getting ready, as he's about to send victory.
• One of the solutions to anxiety is the power of being present.
• When you are in a rush, you miss the things that you're supposed to see. We tend to bypass essential pieces that will make us improve.
• People tend to be so entrepreneurial hungry that they don't come from purpose but from capitalism.
• As we bypass essential pieces, we miss the people with the necessary wisdom we need.
• It is worth your investment even if you don't live here forever.
• We only invest in things that will directly benefit us.
• In applying for a higher position in a job, people tend to feel ready to advance as they thought they knew everything about it.
• Your mastery of any level would be seen by how you handle that level, not by your request to the next level.
• When you're handling it right, the promotion will come to you.
• Success doesn't need to be a prerequisite for a relationship.
• Jeremiah says, pray for the city that has you in captivity, pray for the peace of that city.
• To be present means your attitude about where you are must change, and it doesn't until you pray for the wellbeing of it.
• You can't effectively pray for something that you are not concerned about.
• Sometimes, the answer to that anxiety is a changed heart.
• Anxiety comes from different circumstances, but sometimes it comes because all we want is the next, instead of seeing God in our now.
• Princeton's teacher friend dared him to be present, rededicated to living something that's not permanent.
• Even your worst days deserve the best you.
• The whole point of the scripture is not just to give you the hope, but to teach you to obey from verses one through ten.
• Worship is the power of being present.
• See the value of being here, decide to live fully in it, and find the joy in your now.

 

3 Key Points:

1. Build, plant, invest, anchor yourself in your now.
2. Anxiety comes from different circumstances such as expectations, perceived fear, trauma, but sometimes it comes because we are so future-focus who miss seeing God in our now.
3. See the value of being here, find the joy in your present and live your life to the fullest.

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• "The wind of time is blowing back my hairline probably about an inch a day"- Princeton Parker
• "When you're always trying to go next, it is the reflection that you believe that now has nothing left to offer, which is often a manifestation of pride."Princeton Parker 
• "Your mastery of this level would be seen by how you handle this level, not by your request to the next level"-Princeton Parker
• "Sometimes, the answer to that anxiety is a changed heart"-Princeton Parker
• "Just because you don't live here forever, doesn't mean it's not worth your investment."-Princeton Parker

 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Building Without a Blueprint Podcast 
• Princeton's Website
• Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter
• Impact Network

 

Our Expectations Are Killing Us

Sometimes we’re not anxious because of the difficulty of life, we’re anxious because our expectations were unhealthy. In this episode, Princeton talks about how we can manage our anxiety by managing our expectations of life, people, and ourselves.

 

Episode Highlights: 

• As the anxiety series continues, Princeton will discuss expectations concerning anxiety.
• People have expectations, but people need to practice asking what builds these expectations.
• Princeton often compares himself so much with young influencers, which made him feel down on his own and creates much sense of delay.
• Princeton shares 2Kings 5:1-7 passage, which will help people deal with anxiety.
• John 10:10 implies not to focus primarily on what the enemy's doing, but on how you live your life based on your purposes.  
• Look at life and life more abundantly- the quality of life as lived upon the earth. 
• People tend to ignore mental health in pursuing the ultimate life-ending.
• As we learn a lot of things in life, our enemies continue to gain grounds because we don't have the discussion.
• Anxiety must be dealt on three levels, and understand that self is a tripart who has a spirit, a soul that lives in a body.
• Luke used Agony, a very particular word describing Jesus' emotion in the garden of Gethsemane.
• The cause of anxiety can be from external shapers, such as trauma or a perceived threat, but the most significant reason for it is our thought.
• People build their lives in unhealthy expectations, and then anxiety comes from the process of those unhealthy expectations not being fulfilled.
• It is not wrong to have expectations, but it is essential to know the difference between healthy and unhealthy expectations.
• Healthy expectations produce hope, while unhealthy expectations produce anxiety.
• The separator between healthy and unhealthy expectations is the question, "What shaped your expectations? Was it by God or by people? By wisdom or by fear? By your identity or by your insecurity? Out of purpose or out of pride? 
• Princeton tells a story from 2 King 5:1-7, about a proud leprotic man named Namaan, who meets Elisha to heal him. 
• Namaan was so proud that he felt he was doing them a favor by coming over and not killing them all. 
• Namaan is on the verge of not being healed because his process is not going according to his unhealthy expectations. 
• On Princeton's 6th grade activity, the teacher asked why he expected to go to Princeton University, was it by purpose, or is the pride that “Princeton went to Princeton”? 
• Going to USC, Princeton expected to live with all other freshmen but ended up living a hundred-mile off-campus house with Juniors. 
• Because of unexpected things that happened in his life, he gets to meet the most amazing people in his life. 
• Princeton realized that the greatest miracles in his life occurred on the other side of his unhealthy expectations.
• Princeton challenged everyone to reshape where they thought they'd be at this age and rethink what they would have accomplished by now.
• People tend to make the situation worse by trying to turn “what is” to “what they thought”. 
• Micromanaging every piece of the process will send yourself to further anxiety. 
• Healthy expectations will free you to the present, to serve, and to rest, which ultimately allows you to build discipline as you focus on how to be obedient to the process. 
• The greatest help for our anxiety is to remove the pressure we put on our experience to be perfect. 
• Stop building your brand, and remember to build your life.
• Everything God's promise will come to pass.

 

3 Key Points:

1. It is not wrong to have expectations, but you must know the difference between healthy and unhealthy expectations.
2. Remove too much pressure in life, the pressure we put on our lives, become the pressure that we put on our minds. 
3. Submit to process beyond your expectation to achieve the healing that you have been desiring. 

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• "I really believe that sometimes, our expectations are killing us"- Princeton Parker
• "I want to be saved and delivered. I want the fullness of what Jesus promised me." -Princeton Parker
• "It is not wrong to have expectations" - Princeton Parker
• "I am fixated on the way I thought, my life was supposed to go, not in the way it is productive for my life to go." - Princeton Parker
• "Sometimes the greatest thing in your lives are on the other side of your expectation"-Princeton Parker
• "Every time God challenges me to think differently, every time that God, challenged me to submit, every time to challenge to embrace a process, I have found the most impactful healing."-Princeton Parker

 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Building Without a Blueprint Podcast 
• Princeton's Website
• Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter

Did Jesus Struggle with Anxiety?

Everyone talks about Jesus being strong, but in Princeton’s view, the strength of Jesus is that he identifies with every struggle that we have, including anxiety. Did Jesus struggle with anxiety? Princeton answers in this episode.

 

Episode Highlights: 

• Princeton talks about bad news, where Breonna Taylor, a black medical worker, was shot and killed by Louisville police officers. 
• Officers are more concerned about the endangerment of the neighboring department than the fact that someone died in that incident.
• The incident made Princeton exhausted, broken, hurt, and infuriated in anger at the term "Justice", and the system.
• There's impending anxiety arising from the pandemic, politics, personal life, etc.  
• Princeton talks about the good news where this podcast reached 1000 downloads, which means somebody is listening amid all the absurd things going on and being blessed by it. 
• As the light is more powerful than darkness, let's continue to find the light of God and build a community to fight the darkness.
• Even a believer has an internal battle with anxiety and questions on how to get through as a believer. 
• As Princeton asked the audience to raise their hands, about 80% to 85% of the room had experienced anxiety. 
• John 10:10 “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”
• In a salvific life, we get saved, reconciled back to God, thereby guarantees an everlasting life.
• God is concerned about the quality of life we have. A life that doesn't live under the control of anxiety. 
• Isiah 26:3 says you are more than your anxiety, and it is not an identity. 
• A healthy and peaceful life is possible by opening yourself first and starting the healing process. 
• People don't reach out for help because they believe there is no help, or they don't deserve that help. 
• It is important to teach that anxiety is a regular human emotion because we tend to feel that there is something wrong with us. 
• The misconception of anxiety as being crazy is the device of Satan, so you don't reach out for help. 
• The hardest part of healing is to tell what's going on, and opening up is disarming the darkness's power.
• 1 Corinthian 10:13 is powerful as it says, "no temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind."
• Luke 22:39-44 talks about the anxiety of Jesus from the Garden of Gethsemane, expressing his emotions as being emotionally distanced from his assignment.
• Anxiety happens on three levels, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
• Jesus experienced anxiety when he took a step down to live in a body and walk amongst us and endure a death of violence.
• Princeton wants to destroy the idea that there is something wrong with you because of what you are going through.
• In the presence of agony, there's always a greater force that lives in you.
• The fifth truth about anxiety is that the Savior decided to say yes to experiencing anxiety so that you wouldn't be ashamed about yours.
• Luke 22 teaches us that Jesus lived your experience, so he knows how you feel.
• Jesus defeated death, so anything that's killing you doesn't have to control you.
• Jesus went through so that we could conquer shame.
• Shame prevents you from asking for help when you need it.
• God has always cared about our experience, God identified with our experience through Jesus. 

 

3 Key Points:

1. Anxiety is a regular human emotion that is common to all humans. 
2. There is nothing to be ashamed of with your anxiety because Jesus went through the same process.
3. God identified with our experience through Jesus, so he completely understands how you feel and what you are going through. 

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• "I am a spirit, a spirit that's inhabiting a black body"- Princeton Parker "Light is more powerful than darkness." - Princeton Parker
• "The beginning of breaking Satan whole is to bring the light to it" - Princeton Parker
• "Sometimes the message of hope is not always I'm gonna be alright, sometimes the hope is that He's with me." - Princeton Parker
• "The crazy part is, Jesus knows what I am going through”. - Princeton Parker
• "I want you to remember this episode. Hold up! You know how I feel, and you just not know because you're looking at me but, you know because you dealt with it." - Princeton Parker

 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Building Without a Blueprint Podcast 
• Princeton's Website
• Email Princeton: buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram  Facebook  Twitter