Building Without A Blueprint

From The Pulpit: "Don't Worry I'm just Growing" Pt. 2

In this episode Princeton reflects on what he is grateful for in 2018 and presents part two of the sermon: "Don't Worry, I'm Just Growing"

• 1:00—Princeton Parker starts with Exodus chapter 13.
• 2:40—A 40-year journey where Egypt is slavery Caymun is freedom and the wilderness is the time you need to evolve from slavery and caymun. The wilderness and time is the process of evolving.
• 4:41—You cannot have Caymun (the result) if you haven´t enjoyed the wilderness (process).
• 5:46—Change of environment is not freedom. Change of character is.
• 7:20—Princeton unpacks the trials and traumas of slavery.
• 9:45—The power of intentionally taking the long route.
• 10:10—Can you see areas in your life where you were taken a long way around?
• 11:35—God is taking you the long way around not because he is angry. God wants you to be ready.
• 12:00—You know you are growing when you can peacefully renegotiate your timeline.
• 12:27—You have nothing to prove. When you don´t make a deadline, ask this question--What created that deadline? It can still happen on a different timeline.
• 13:30—Interogate where your timelines come from.
• 15:33—You know you are growing when you take count of the fact that the things you dislike most about people are in you too.
• 16:12—Your pain will expose what you still have a taste for.
• 16:48—You know you are growing when you are ok without temporary fixes.
• 17:25—How long you suffer does not entitle you to success. The work you put in on your heart does.
• 19:00—You know you are growing when God makes you face things that he used to shield you from in the last season.
• 20:40—The power of knowing that you are enough.
• 20:50—You know you regrowing when you are facing difficult situations.
• 21:45—You know you are growing when you forgive yourself for the things that aren´t yourself and you decide not to repeat the mistakes of the generation before you.
• 22:15—You know you are growing when you learn to enjoy the experience.
• 23:30— Preaching songs with Princeton.
• 24:34—We glory in tribulation because it is producing something.
• 25:09—Princeton highlights the fruits of patience.
• 26:30—Don´t stop seeking God, and do the work through tribulations.
• 27:20—The next thing you get in this season is because you put in work.
• 28:00—Patience breeds experience.
• 29:34—This too shall pass.
• 30:53—You are not going through it, you are growing through it.
• 31:30—Everything that was getting in your way was nailed to the cross.
• 32:10— You´ve got to grow. Don´t stop growing.
• 33:20— I know it is expensive to grow, but you are going to like the way you look.
• 35:10—Growing hurts. Growth and death feel the same.
• 38:10—Talk to yourself the way you would talk to someone else. You have the words you just use them for everyone else except yourself.

 

3 Key Points:

1. Princeton explains the process of growth in comparison to the journey from Egypt to Caymun. You cannot reach your destination without going through the process.

2. God takes you the long way intentionally to prepare you.   

3. When we go through growth, talk to yourself the same way you would talk to someone you love--be passionate, motivating, and forgiving.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

-       “Change of environment is not freedom. Change of character is.” –Princeton.

 -       “You know you are growing when you can peacefully renegotiate your timeline.” – Princeton.

 -       “Interrogate where your timelines come from.” – Princeton.

 -       “You know you are growing when you take count of the fact that the things you dislike most about people are in you too.”–Princeton

 -       “You know you are growing when God makes you face things that he used to shield you from in the last season.”–Princeton  

-       “Patience breeds experience.”–Princeton

-       “You are not going through it, you are growing through it.”–Princeton

Resources Mentioned:

• Subscribe to Building without a Blueprint and share it!
• More about Princeton Parker
• Email Princeton--buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram, facebook, twitter

From the Pulpit: "Don't Worry I'm Just Growing Pt. 1"

In the sixth episode of the Building Without a Blueprint, host Princeton Parker shares his deep desire to contribute to humanity in a way that is bigger than himself. He shares his sermon where he upacks a season of change and pain. Princeton beautifully parallels his stories with those of Jesus.

•  1:37—Princeton Parker thanks the presence of the Lord and starts us off with a prayer.
• 2:20—Today, Princeton focuses on Exodus the 13th chapter and Romans 5th chapter.
• 4:23—He honors the woman and Dr. Thomas and gives thanks to the different departments in the church.
• 6:28—We begin with focus on the book of Exodus chapter 13, 17 verse.
• 7:51—The book of Romans chapter 5 talks about patience, experience, and hope. Hope will not embarrass you.
• 8:55—Don´t worry. I´m just growing--the topic for today. This is why people leave our lives because they can´t handle our growth.
• 10:47—We get so sccustomed to talking to our neighbor that we don´´ receive the right word for us. Don´t worry. I´m just growing.
• 11:42—The person who is most afraid of your developmnent is you.
• 12:10—Don´t worry. Im just growing. These words aren´t about having ´beef¨ with other people. These words are for ourselves.
• 13:40—When we rest, it is an act of faith. We believe we don´t hold up our life but God does.
• 15:08—Princeton delves into gym culture and uses it to lead into how small events can cause long-term pain.
• 18:40—One comment or short act can have a long-term impact on others .
• 19:02—The danger of pain is that it can make you lose all sense of perspective.
• 19:48—In pain, we lose track ofthe side-effect.
• 19:55—Don´t hold judgement of people because it is all driven by pain.
• 21:20—Pain is disorienting and can drive depression.
• 24:40—In this seson while you grow. you will get one that says stop because of the discomfort, but the other message will come from your mind because it will say keep going becasue of the reward. Don´t worry. Im just growing.
• 25:20—See pain not as just pain but opportunity.
• 26:01—Changing the way you see your circumstance doesn´t make it hurt less. Changing the way you see your circumstance will make you hurt with purpose.
• 27:26—People don´t leave because of the pain. They leave because they lose perspective. It isn´t worth it and the purpose is lost.
• 28:30— When you lose your perspective and you run towards something else, you are just running towards another kind of pain.
• 29:19—Your pain is here to grow you not kill you.
• 30:22—The reason why God is putting me through this pain is to figure out my ¨heart¨ issues, passion issues.
• 31:11—Holiness is a heart issue.
• 31:47—Don´t try to address someones sin before you see their pain.
• 32:00—Jesus forgives sin. If I forgive you but don´t heal you, it is very likely you will go back to what injured you in the first place.

 

3 Key Points:

1. Life is filled with seasons of growth and change, and the person most afraid of our growth is ourselves.
2. Throughout the season of growth, there is also pain, growing pains. Pain, if we let it, can make us lose our perspective and purpose.   
3. We cannot address someone´s sin until we have also seen their pain.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

-       “The person who is most afraid of your developmnent is you.” –Princeton.

 -       “The danger of pain is that it can make you lose all sense of perspective.” – Princeton.

 -       “Changing the way you see your circumstances doesn´t make it hurt less. Changing the way you see your circumstances will make you hurt with purpose.” – Princeton.

 -       “Your pain is here to grow you not kill you.”–Princeton

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Subscribe to Building without a Blueprint and share it!
• More about Princeton Parker
• Email Princeton--buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram, facebook, twitter

A Blueprint for Boundaries

In this episode, Princeton shares a follow up to his conversation on self-love with Dr. Mikki Taylor. You protect what you value, and Princeton teaches how the greatest demonstration of loving yourself, is protecting yourself. This is a must listen!

•  3:45—Princeton Parker introduces the topic of today--boundaries
• 4:19—Boundaries are huge in your ability to love yourself. Boundaries are a reflection of value.
• 4:45—You can tell how much meaning something has to someone by their willingness to protect it: think about your bank account or house? To what extent have we protected these things?
• 6:20—Boundaries must be set out of value, not fear.
• 6:19—The art of setting boundaries is done because you value yourself rather than as a way to avoid your fears.
• 9:20—Humility is not your ability to be loved. Humility is strength is under control.
• 10:35—God never wants us to be so in touch with him that we are not in touch with humanity or ourselves.
• 11:00—What to be of service means and doesn´t mean. Being of service and putting ourselves aside equates to unhealthy boundaries. Set boundaries to honor your value.
• 13:10—The blueprint for boundaries using Jesus as a case study. Even Jesus had boundaries
• 14:24—Jesus lives along the line between humanity and divinity.
• 15:30—One of the key steps in your self-love journey would be learning to acknowledge, embrace, and then, honor your limits. Limits can include the following topics: I cannot change people. I do not control the way other people receive me. I do not control the way other people receive my truth. I need to rest.
• 17:30—You cannot feel guilty for your limits.
• 18:20—If you have not acknowledged and embraced your limits, others are going to make you feel guilty for them.
• 19:54—Acknowledge your limits and the honor them by setting boundaries.
• 21:20—Everything Jesus does is intentional and by design.
• 22:04—The first boundary: Jesus had strict boundaries around his time. Jesus practiced spending time alone.
• 23:20—What we lose when we overfill our life with people and projects is our time alone.
• 24:20—Acknowledging your limits means acknowledging that you aren´t holding everything up--family, relationship, and a job can all survive without you.
• 25:27—Jesus knows how to prioritize his needs over everyone else`s.
• 26:33—Jesus spent time away but he also changed the environment--nature, the beach, eat alone.
• 27:27— We use intentional time alone to invest in ourselves: prayer.
• 28:25—Prayer is used as a processing space.
• 30:36—Have you thought about where you need to go to get away from your daily routine and do you respect your boundary of being alone? Sometimes you have to say no.
• 31:28—Jesus knew how to not prolong a conversation, experience, or relationships.
• 32:24—Jesus knows how to not allow someone to overstay their welcome.
• 33:50—Value your time enough to not be late. Start to set boundaries around your time.
• 34:15—Second boundary: Jesus had boundaries around who he revealed himself to in his fullness. Jesus had 12 friends and he only revealed his true form to three of them.
• 36:25—Jesus was careful about who he revealed his skills to (Mathew 13).
• 38:50—I set boundaries around my gifts and talents--only giving them to those who see me for who I am.
• 40:21—Jesus set boundaries. Jesus is love, and therefore, setting boundaries is love.
• 42:00—The power of having boundaries set as an inner circle, outer circle, and outside world.
• 43:30—The third boundary: Jesus never worked to prove himself. he was resolute in knowing who he is and what he came to do.
• 45:00—You don`t owe the world an explanation.
• 46:12—Faith is not the divine nature above going to drop you something miraculous. It is about putting your work in plus the acts of God.
• 47:30—How long you have suffered does not entitle you to success or a specific outcome. You have to do the work.
• 49:40—Get rid of that ¨enough thing.¨
• 50:00—Fourth boundary: Jesus had boundaries around what he tolerated. He did not tolerate hypocrisy, judgement, or abuse.
• 52:00—Make a list of things that you will not tolerate in relationships, in your space, or things happening around you.
• 53:23—Jesus knew when to respond and when not to respond-- ¨You said it.¨

 

 3 Key Points:

1. Boundaries are a huge part of the pathway to self-love.
2. Boundaries to set with Jesus as an example: Time, who I reveal myself to, who I prove myself to, what I tolerate, and what I need a response.
3. Jesus was unlimited and yet he had boundaries. Loving everyone and everything does not come at the expense of loving yourself.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

• “One of the key steps in your self-love journey would be learning to acknowledge, embrace, and then, honor your limits.” –Princeton.
• “You cannot feel guilty for your limits.” – Princeton.
• “You don`t owe the world an explanation.” – Princeton.
• “With God as your foundation and purpose as your motivation, keep going.”–Princeton

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Subscribe to Building without a Blueprint and share it!
• More about Princeton Parker
• buildingwithprinceton@gmail.com
• Princeton Parker: Instagram, facebook, twitter

A Blueprint for Self Love ft. Dr. Mikki Taylor

The fourth episode of the Building Without a Blueprint podcast, where host Princeton Parker shares Mikki Taylor`s light and her deep desire to contribute to humanity, gives us the building  blocks to build self-love in our lives without needing a blueprint; all we need is the presence of God. Mikki Taylor, Beauty and Cover Essence Magazine, CEO and founder of Mikki Taylor Enterprises, leaves us with the important building blocks to self-love.

• 1:00—Introduction of Guest, Mikki Taylor—Beauty and Cover Editor of Essence magazine and Founder of Mikki Taylor Enterprises
• 2:29—The story behind how Mikki and Princeton met.
• 3:00—Mikki Taylor describes herself as a guiding light in service, a mother, a wife, engager, and champion of woman.
• 4:22—Grappling with the essence of assurance and confidence in knowing who we are and what we do.
• 6:19—The power of not remaining silent on important issues such as championing woman in the realm of beauty.
• 7:55—A discussion around how Mikki doesn´t lose herself when she is in service advocating for others.
• 10:00—The language used to sell beauty product to woman is still not a voice of inclusion.
• 11:16—You have to understand the people you serve in the industry to do business well.
• 11:58—The complexity of feeling invisible paralleled with self-love.
• 13:00— The key is to kick the door open and get inside and then hold it open for others.
• 13:30—Essence as a magazine celebrates the story of all magazine and works with a voice of inclusion.
• 14:42—Self-love requires knowing our value and vision.
• 16:52—Self-love also means surrounding yourself with the right people.
• 17:16—Your greatness was not designed to live in isolation.
• 17:45—Deciphering the behaviors that destroy self-love is important in your self-love journey.
• 18:39—There are physical, vocal, and beahvioural behaviors that destroy self-love.
• 19:34—Self-destuctive habits include destuctive eating habits, shopping, and body language.
• 20:27—We have yet to fire our inner critic. Don´t wait to step out of your way.
• 20:50—How to fire your inner-critic and move forward.
• 21:39—Your inner critic will try to sneak back in in a lot of ways. You have ot stay focused even once you fire it.
• 22:00—Regardless of your ancestry, we all came here to escape oppression and this can be reflected in our pursuit of self-love.
• 26:00—Self-love is not a robbery from god, but instead a tenant of his promise.
• 26:52—We need to stop looking for outside validation and instead incourage ourseleves. We are not created to be in bondage to thoughts thta hold us back.
• 28:19—Mikki reviews the steps to achieveing self-love and how to execute on it. It may mean you need to change habits, get out of your own way, or let go of some people from your life.
• 30:11—You have the power to thrive. Life is not a dress rehearsal.
• 31:00—Go where you are celebrated not where you are to
• 33:25—You must walk in the truth of who you are.
• 34:00—Mikki discusses other people who have impacted her greatly.
• 36:26—Mikki leaves us with affrimations for our self-love journey.

 

3 Key Points:

1. Self-love is an imporant piece of knowing our identity, value, and owning our purpose.
2. The role of self-love in an industry of Beauty and Modelinga is even more pronounced.
3. Know your purpose, passion, fire your inner critic, and get out of your own way.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

-       “Self-love also means surrounding yourself with the right people.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “If you haven´t identified your purpose, get still and figure out what it is.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “Your greatness was not designed to live in isolation.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “Be still.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “We have yet to fire our inner critic. Don´t wait to step out of your way.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “Go where you are celebrated not where you are tolerated.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “Self-love is not a robbery from god, but instead a tenant of his promise.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “The goal is just to get through the door [of the beauty industry] and then hold the door open for others.” – Mikki Taylor.

 -       “You must walk in the truth of who you are.” – Mikki Taylor.

 Resources Mentioned:

• Building without a Blueprint
• Princeton Parker
• Mikki Taylor
• ¨Edited in Chic¨--book mentioned by Princeton

 

 

From the Pulpit: "Building Without A Blueprint (Part 2)"

Summary:

The third episode of the Building Without a Blueprint podcast, where host Princeton Parker shares personal stories of himself and others that have had the deep desire to contribute to humanity but aren’t sure how provides an audio recording of a past sermon that relates to the building blocks of building without a blueprint. Learn the reasons why our authentic life is about relying on God, not a plan or blueprint.   

 

• 01:51 – God wants you to depend totally on God—not on other people or things.
• 05:44 – God is leading us from understanding things mentally, to understanding them because we have experienced them.

• 07:40 – Building without a blueprint allows you to know who you are.
• 09:07 – Building without a blueprint keeps you authentic—if you had a blueprint for it you would be a copy of someone else.

• 10:20 – When you build without a blueprint you know how to fix it when it goes astray.

• 11:09 – There is no blueprint because you are becoming the blueprint to be able to help others.

• 12:28 – The blessing is the building of something—not the becoming of a thing.
• 14:26 – What the world needs now is different than what it needed in the past.
• 17:14 – There is no blueprint for life because God is the builder—not us.
• 18:50 – When you are building without a blueprint you have to check the foundation (the word of God)—everything you are not is why God chose you.

• 20:57 – Know why you are building.
• 21:16 – You need to change what you see.
• 21:31 – Don’t build all your dreams around one person.
• 21:51 – You have to build brick by brick.

 

3 Key Points:

1. 1. God knew if you have a blueprint you would become self-sufficient and not depend on God for guidance.  

2. God wants to take you from the realm of knowing something mentally from understanding, to the realm of having knowledge based on having experienced it for yourself.

3. If God allowed you to have everything that everyone else has you would never know how much God put in you.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

-    “Building without a blueprint makes you not depend on people, and totally depend on God.” – Princeton Parker.

-    “Building without a blueprint shows you who God is.” – Princeton Parker.

-    “Building without a blueprint shows you who you are. – Princeton Parker.

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Website – Princeton Parker’s Website
• Instagram – Princeton Parker’s Instagram
• Brandon Combs – Twitter for Brandon Combs
• Trap Noir– Instagram for Trap Noir
• Marcus Paul – Instagram for Trap Noir

From the Pulpit: “Building Without a Blueprint"

Princeton shares the sermon that inspired the podcast. He looks at the life of the prophet Amos and how he like all of us, had an intense call from God to build something with no training or resources.

Summary:

This is the second episode of the Building Without a Blueprint podcast, where host Princeton Parker shares personal stories of himself and others that have had the deep desire to contribute to humanity but aren’t sure how. Today, Princeton provides an audio recording of a past sermon that relates how Amos was called upon by God to be a prophet when he had no experience, and how Princeton has had to do many things without instructions or examples.

 

• 01:46 – Princeton Parker speaks about his podcast theme song that he produced and the talented people he collaborated with.

• 04:39 – He states that his preaching perspective carries over throughout his day-to-day life outside of church. 

• 10:10 – He sets up what his sermon will be about, the prophet Amos from the Bible, that was an inspiration for Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech.

• 13:05 – Princeton Parker’s sermon is played featuring The Book of Amos-Chapter 7 and Psalm 23-Verse 1 and Verse 4.

• 18:13 – Amos was a herdsman and a gatherer of sycamore fruit who was summoned by God to be a prophet.

• 20:37 – He admits that just being he is a good preacher, it doesn’t mean he is good at other things, like math and science.

• 23:37 – He shares his experiences working at a Disney amusement park.
• 25:26 – The Rubik’s cube is an analogy about not always being put together in life and having to build without a blueprint.

• 31:11 – Don’t criticize somebody’s lifestyle until you understand the pain that has brought them towards those decisions.

• 32:02 – God can’t be subjected to understanding by the way of one thought pattern or framework.

• 34:14 – The reason some people like “Love and Hip Hop” is not because it is a TV show, but because their lives genuinely look like that.

• 36:30 – When we get frustrated with our lack of success, we often quit trying and use “perfection” as a defense that we shouldn’t try to live up to.

• 38:20 – Moses had the unique position to relate to both the oppressed and the oppressor, and had to realize that at some point he would be hated by both.

• 41:35 – Some people can only receive you when you rock the way they rock.
• 44:30 – The thing that will make you great in life will at most times feel like a burden. Amos’ name means “burden.”

• 46:25 – Everybody wants to be famous, but nobody wants to be a role model. Each privilege comes with seven times the responsibility.

• 47:33 – Don’t ask God for something that you aren’t ready to represent. People will want to hold you accountable for it.

• 52:03 – Princeton gives his contact information.

 

3 Key Points:

1. 1. Don’t criticize someone’s lifestyle until you understand the pain that has brought them towards those choices.   

2. When we get frustrated with our lack of success, we often quit and use “perfection” as an excuse that we shouldn’t try living up to.

3. Each privilege comes with seven times the responsibility.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

-    “Whatever I go on to do, I’m a preacher at my core.” – Princeton Parker.

-    “You have faith so that the same grace that has been extended to you, the same power, the same resources, the same privilege that has been extended to you might be used for other people.” – Princeton Parker.

-    “Don’t try to address somebody’s sin, until you address their pain.” – Princeton Parker.

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Website – Princeton Parker’s Website
• Instagram – Princeton Parker’s Instagram
• Brandon Combs – Twitter for Brandon Combs
• Trap Noir– Instagram for Trap Noir
• Marcus Paul – Instagram for Trap Noir

The Princeton Parker Story

Who is Princeton Parker? In this episode Princeton introduces his story and talks about how he has been building his life with no blueprint as a kid preacher who began preaching at 4 years old.